I have found that my males don't like being handled as much as my females. Snakey doesn't like me touching him at all, unless he wants the attention and he will seek it and come to my hand when he's ready to tolerate me. Sometimes I can pick him up without him fussing, but he'll hold onto things with his tail. He's been with me for so long that he knows I won't kill him if I'm trying to pick him up when he doesn't want it, and he'll be more calm but he gets pretty squirmy when I've held him for too long. Mama, on the other hand, will just let me pick her up and she's usually just lounging around in my hand. She's gotten just a little bit more squirmy now that she's gravid (or acting that way with food and a magical growing backside). The longer you have your snake, the more he will trust you. I've had Snakey for almost 2 years now and he does seem to know my mom and I quite well. It takes a lot of time for them to get used to you sometimes, but I'm sure he will trust you... As long as you aren't forcing yourself on him all the time.