Using Members' Names

[Stefan-A]

Now let's be fair, I think it's pretty natural to object to something that you perceive as wrong, even if it doesn't involve you.

[Lulu Bennett]

But a private message would have been better.

[Snaky]

It's actually already discussed some while back
http://www.thamnophis.com/forum/site...anonymity.html

I don't have a problem with it and I also think that it helps with creating a friendly atmosphere. Just my 2 cents

[Garter_Gertie]

Thank you all for your input. Yes, I probably should have made private but I thought if I thought it others might have, too, and I chose to jump in feet first in case there were others that felt as I do.

I agree 100% about names being used and us becoming friends. That was not what I was getting at. I don't use names until I'm comfortable with someone - James. Or I give them nicknames.

It was the using of a given name right off the bat before any type of relationship had formed. That's what bothered me. And as you can see I must now be comfortable here as for quite sometime here I've gone by the 'name' I've been called for about 25 years.

James, thanks for your expliantion. I appreciate your answer to something that bothered and confused me.

FWIW, I'm not a 'ceral' killer. I became a statistic when I was involved in a domestic assault. Consequently, I became a different person and constant nightmares, fear and sometimes even terror visit me daily. So it is personal, Lulu. Very much so and I got the answer I was looking for.

[GartersRock]

I personally liked it. But to each his own!
I use my name now when I am on "other" forums. But here. When I signed up a couple years ago, I didn't. Now I wish I could. And there is no room for my name on my sig. lol!!

[adamanteus]

I think I see a concensus here.... so I will continue to greet new members by their names. I'm sure they will let me know if they disapprove! I feel it is this personal and friendly approach that sets our forum apart from the other 'nasties' out there.

[GartersRock]

Cool! I agree!

[bio6464]

Jerry

[Hornets23]

Just wanted to apoligize for the "serial killer" comment. I was just playing but I can see how it would come off as jerkish. My apoligies gertie.

[Garter_Gertie]

Hornets, that is so very sweet, nice and mature of you. I really appreciate it, you've given me a warm fuzzy, and your very polite and matue apology is happy accepted, sir!

THANKS!!!